I try to read her mind.
Wouldn’t you like to have somebody that’s on your level?
When we’re good, we are a perfect balance of form and function.
When you need to be on the same level as a person, you need to work as a balancing force to help each other out. “For better and for worse” as they say. The two quotes above show the different levels that two people can work on. That is two different ways that people can look at a relationship and see the progress and balance that has formed.
If you want to be level, you have to communicate on a safe and neutral playing field. Someone can ask for that but not get it. The thought of dissecting their deepest vulnerabilities, of exposing the cracks in their marriage, invokes fears of judgement and failure in yourself. But to face the fear of the unknown and be accountable to each other for the failures, would be to break the cycles and move out of the deafening storm of silence.